Wednesday, February 16, 2011

Romance is nice...

Romance is nice. But it is biological in origin. That dizzy head-over-heels feeling is a species of losing your mind, and most of the time it lasts only as long as the chase.

What we keep forgetting is that in marriage, as opposed to romances, you aren't marrying the thrilling wonderful perfect someone you're looking at right now.

You're marrying the man who decides not to have the dazzling career with the high salary, refusing promotions and transfers so the kids don't have to change schools.

You're marrying the woman whose body doesn't bounce back after the third baby, so she's no longer slim and attractive by the standards of the magazines. You're marrying the migraines and the hemorrhoids and the heart attack and the cancer; you're marrying the irritable, forgetful, lazy, thoughtless, sarcastic, distracted, too-busy days as well as the Kodak-happy ones.

You're marrying the one who works with you to raise the crippled child, or stands with you at the graveside of the child who dies. You're marrying the one who can't find work after the company folds or he's laid off; you're marrying the early Alzheimer's, the diabetes, the obesity, the pain of conflict and the struggle of forgiveness.

The foundation of that isn't some ideal of romantic love. It's a commitment based on the goals you share. And real love, married love, is not what you start with--it's what you create together along the way.
--Orson Scott Card

5 comments:

sanpinney said...

Love it! I didn't realize until the end that this was a quote. I was really impressed with your profound thoughts and how well you put them into words. :o)

Anonymous said...

that quote was on two other blogs i just read

spitupandkisses said...
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kalisarah88 said...

I love LOVE this! Thanks for sharing. :)

Tiffani said...

Yeah, I stole the quote from another blog but thought it was worth remembering!